ASE Program: Director of Ramallah Friends School

Joyce Ajlouny, Director, Ramallah Friends School, Ramallah, Palestine, will speak at event titled “Education Under Occupation: Friends Preserving Hope and Dignity” on May 1, 12:30 pm. The event will be held in the Community Room at the Meetinghouse at 4500 Kensington Avenue.

Snacks will be provided.

For background about the speaker and the school, see the event listing on the Calendar page of this website.

Adult Spiritual Education Series – Living the Quaker Life

This six-session series will be held on the 2nd and 4th First Days (Sundays) in February, March, and April from 9 am to 10:45 am. The series is designed for newcomers, long-time members and attenders, and those who are considering membership. One or more of our Meeting’s elders will facilitate each of the sessions. Each session will have assigned readings from the BYM “Faith and Practice 2013” (see below) and other readings selected by the facilitators. Each session will include a presentation, experiential activities, sharing, and questions and answers.

Session 1   February 14   How We Worship

Session 2   February 28   Living Our Testimonies – Part I

Session 3   March 13   Living Our Testimonies – Part II

Session 4   March 27   Appreciating From Whence We Came

Session 5   April 10   How We Organize Ourselves and How We Conduct Our Business

Session 6   April 24   How We Act to Change the World

The text for the adult spiritual education series “Living the Quaker Life” will be the proposed 2013 Baltimore Yearly Meeting’s Faith and Practice. The Adult Spiritual Education Committee will provide a free copy of this text to all who commit to participate in as many of these sessions as their personal schedules allow. To obtain a copy, see or contact a member of the Adult Spiritual Education Committee.

The Goodness Workshop: Fall Retreat with John Calvi at the Clearing

 
 All are invited to Richmond Friends Meetings’ Fall Retreat with John Calvi at the Clearing, Saturday November 14 from 9am to 3pm.  John has been working as a Quaker healer and retreat leader since 1982.  The Goodness Workshop is a slow, quiet time where any sharing is by choice, and the depth is chosen individually.  We will learn simple, clothes-on massage, and a simple beginning energy work form for deep relaxation to calm body and thinking.  A clear sense of our own goodness has important implications for our own healing, helping others, and deeper spiritual seeking in our everyday lives.  We’ll have John’s stories to keep us laughing, and a tender tone to rest our busy lives and weary bodies.  Our Fall Retreat is sponsored by RFM’s Ministry & Worship Committee with Adult Spiritual Education Committee.
The Dance between Hope and Fear is John’s latest book.  You can visit his website at www.johncalvi.com.
For Directions to the Clearing, visit www.richmondfriends.org.  The Clearing is about an hour southwest of Richmond at 13491 Genito Road, Amelia Court House, Va. 23002.
Preregistration by November 10 is appreciated, but not required, by emailing hughesmc@verizon.net, or leaving a message at 804-262-1917 for Mary Fran.  Lunch is pot luck, so please bring food to share.  Bringing a blanket and pillow is a good idea for comfort.

Adult Spiritual Education: The Spiritual Implications of Our Food Choices

Sunday, October 25th,  9:30 to 10:45 am in the Community Room.

What are the spiritual implications of our food choices? How do our food choices connect us to the rest of the living world? How can we live in unity with that world?

Our leader for this session will be Dr. Margaret Fisher who is a member of Herndon Friends Meeting where she has served at various times as clerk of the Meeting as well as of Peace and Social Concerns, and Ministry and Oversight. Her current Meeting work is with the Student Peace Awards of Fairfax County committee.

Dr. Fisher has led workshops on this important subject at the BYM Annual Session, Women’s Retreat, Alexandria and Patapsco Meetings, as well as Penn Hill Quarterly Meeting.

Meeting for Chanting!

May 18 at 7:30-8:30 PM in the Meetinghouse

Chanting is a way of centering into awareness of Spirit. We sing short songs out of the silence, and repeat them until the sense of the group ends the chant. Friends will gather into silence in the mode of worship sharing–much like we do at BYM Women’s Retreat. Have some chants in mind, and anyone may start a chant. This is the first time we’ve done this. If it goes well, we’ll do it again–perhaps regularly.

2015 FGC Gathering

2015 FGC Gathering

The FGC Gathering is a week of Quaker worship, workshops, and community for all ages.

Quakers will gather from throughout North America and across the world to live for a week immersed in Quaker experience. In 2015, we begin our week on July 5 in a beautiful mountain setting at the University of Western Carolina, just west of Asheville, NC.

Here are some of the many possibilities when 1200 people of faith come together at the Gathering:

  • Mornings spent in weeklong workshops given by knowledgeable leaders
  • Evening plenary sessions to inspire, entertain and challenge us
  • Early morning opportunities for movement, worship, or Bible
  • Afternoons and late evenings free to choose from a sparkling variety of intergenerational fun activities, spontaneous groups around assorted interests, singing, worship, presentations, field trips, dancing, films, and so many other things!
  • Youth programming for small children through high school age
  • Dedicated events offered for LGBTQ Friends, non-theist Friends, Friends of Color and their families, Quakers in business and Adult Young Friends, and more!
  • The delight of re-connecting with old Friends and making new ones
  • Stretching our sense of self, deepening our faith, supporting one another in our growth, exploring new ways of being in the world

All of this is available to us in a welcoming, affirming, and accessible community.

Early registration runs April 1 through April 12. Early registrants have equal access to workshops and priority consideration for FGC financial assistance. Standard registration begins on April 18.

Richmond Friends Meeting offers scholarship assistance up to $400, based on need. Please contact monicashaw@dmshaw for more information.

Copies of the FGC Gathering Advance Program are available at the Meeting House.

Michelle Bellows             3/25/15

Worship Sharing Circle on “Spirit and the Environment”

On Sunday, April 12, at 9:30 in the Community Room, Adult Spiritual Education and Peace and Social Concerns will hold a Worship Sharing Circle on “Spirit and the Environment” using Joanna Macy’s essay “The Greening of the Self” (found in the anthology Spiritual Ecology, edited by Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee) as a focus. We’ve been given permission to print 50 copies, which will be available on the table below the bulletin board in the foyer.

Spring Equinox Bible Workbench

The Adult Spiritual Education committee will hold a one-hour Spring Equinox Bible Workbench, on Sunday, March 22, at 9:30 in the Community Room. We will discuss Jeremiah 31: 31-34. You don’t need to read the scripture in advance, or be Christian or knowledgeable about the Bible in order to participate. We follow the guidelines/contexts/questions shaped by the Educational Center’s Bible Workbench Series (edited by D. Andrew Kille): What is happening in this story? Where is the story alive and happening in the world around us? How is this story my own internal story?  Where does it live in my life?

Scholarship Funds and Guidelines for Adult Spiritual Education

Jean Jones Andersen’s passion for spiritual education led her to leave our community funds to support adults in taking classes, retreats, workshops, etc. to further their spiritual education. If you have an idea, vision, or leading towards some kind of spiritual growth opportunity—spiritual formation retreat, classes, etc.–and you need funds to make it happen, the members of the Adult Spiritual Education Committee—clerk Howard Garner, Mary Fran Hughes-McIntyre, Betsy Brinson, Monica Shaw, and Leslie Shiel–invite you to submit your request–a letter to our committee–explaining the project and asking for what you need.

You may leave your letter in the ASE mailbox at meeting house, mail it to Richmond Friends Meeting, 4500 Kensington Avenue, VA 23221-2301 (c/o Adult Spiritual Education Committee), or email one of the committee members.

Guidelines and Application Process for

Adult Spiritual Education Scholarships

From the Jean Jones Andersen Bequest

2015

Richmond Friends Meeting

  1. Scholarships of up to $400 are available to Members and active Attenders of Richmond Friends Meeting who wish to participate in adult spiritual education activities, especially those sponsored by the wider Religious Society of Friends.
  2. The scholarships are not intended to cover the full cost of these activities but to supplement personal resources and other scholarships that may be available through the sponsoring organizations.
  3. In order to be considered, Members and Attenders need to have been actively involved in the life of Richmond Friends Meeting during the preceding year.
  4. An individual may receive only one scholarship in a twelve-month period.
  5. Scholarship recipients are asked to write a one-page note documenting the experience for Meeting’s archives.
  6. In order to apply, an individual should write a letter to the Adult Spiritual Education Committee that includes the following:
  • The activity and the sponsoring organization.
  • The possible significance of this activity for the individual’s spiritual journey.
  • How this experience might be shared with the broader Richmond Friends community when the individual returns from the activity.
  • The amount of money being requested (up to $400).
  • Other scholarship sources one might pursue.

Application letters should be submitted to the Adult Spiritual Education Committee three months prior to the activity is scheduled to begin.

Bible Study Schedule for 2015 (through June)

Bible Study will meet in one of the upstairs classrooms on the following dates/times.
Schedule for 2015 (through June):
January 4  9:45 am -10:45 am
February 22  9:45 am – 10:45 am
March 22  9:45 am – 10:45 am
April 26  9:45 am – 10:45 am
May 24  9:45 am – 10:45 am

June 28  9:45 am – 10:45 am

BYM Faith & Practice review: ad hoc Committee report to RFM

Editor’s Note: The following report was accepted at business meeting on 16 November, 2014.

Following 2013 Baltimore Yearly Meeting (BYM) annual session, Richmond Friends Meeting (RFM) learned that the BYM Faith & Practice draft was not approved and the committee was laid down until a new committee could be formed.  RFM felt a responsibility to look at the 2013 Faith & Practice draft and provide feedback to BYM.  The Clerk of Meeting, Barbara Hulburt, created an ad hoc committee in First Month 2014, to look deeply at F&P and report back to business meeting.  The committee met five times over the year.

The committee felt the reading and reflection on F&P was spiritually deep and rewarding. We read each section of Faith and Practice with the following queries as our guides: How does this speak to me?  How do I think this speaks to my meeting?

Overall, we feel a deep respect and gratitude to the Friends who worked for 10 years to bring this draft to us all.  We appreciate the breadth and depth of the undertaking.  There is much that resonates with us as a group, we felt the Vision Statement’s use of the many metaphors for Quaker Spirituality inclusive and welcoming.  We also liked several sections: Simplicity, Aging, Integrity and Listening.  We liked the inclusive wording and appreciated the diversity in the Voices sections.  The queries that are deeper and open-ended engaged our hearts and minds (versus the yes-no queries).

It reads as if different sections have different authors with different perspectives. Careful editing might smooth out these differences while not eliminating the varying thoughts and experiences. We also found some sections, like Education, were too wordy and too theistic.

We were particularly sensitive to the discussions and the advices and queries that speak of “God’s will” and “worshipping God together,” and “Quaker beliefs.”   As these wordings embrace a spiritual perspective that implies an exterior God directing things and a Christo-centric creed, non-theists experience discomfort and may be led to feel like second-class Quakers.  For guidance in re-writing and editorial work, we would refer to page 149 which states: “Baltimore Yearly Meeting is without binding creed.  Its beliefs are based on its Judeo-Christian heritage and adherence to the Spirit of Christ, the inward Light, the Divine Seed, and That of God in everyone.

At this point of our exploration we recommend the continued editing of the F&P.  We do not want the essence of Quakerism diluted, but ask for language that is authentic and meaningful to the diverse spectrum of Quakers today. We feel there are many expressions that are satisfying to theists and nontheists alike, such as Inner Light, Inner Teacher, that of God in everyone, Spirit-led, and others. We feel that inclusive language does not require the removal of God, Christo-centric voices and Biblical passages from F&P, but we do feel that it should not contain language that makes some Friends feel excluded. When these terms are used, the context should be that of the inward teacher, the inner light, etc. When used that way, they become interpretable to all of us.

We provide the following examples to show our thought process. A section that troubled the RFM ad-hoc committee was the marriage section and BYM’s definition of marriage, “Marriage, as understood by Friends, is a relationship involving two individuals, God, and the religious community that witnesses, recognizes and supports it.”  We offer this in its stead, “Marriage, as understood by Friends, is a Spirit-led relationship involving two individuals and the Friends’ community that witnesses, recognizes, and supports it.”

We understand that Faith and Practice becomes a snap-shot of a time & place of our corporate spiritual journey, and that it will never be perfect or finished.  We ask that as the new committee convenes, they hold the following query, found in the Diversity section on page, 71, as its guide: “Are we willing to be in communion with each other, open to our differences yet secure in the one Spirit that calls us all to be Friends?”  We are confident that the Friends of BYM can create a document of greater integrity and right relationship.

Richmond Friends Meeting

BYM Faith & Practice ad hoc Committee

Bob Alexander

Diane Bowden

Tracey Cain

Bronwyn Hughes

Don Miller

Elizabeth Smith

ASE presentation on Humans in the Natural World – January 11th

Humans in the Natural World will be the subject of a presentation by Dr. Harry Wistrand, Professor of Biology, Emeritus, Agnes Scott College on January 11 at 9:30-10:45.  The talk/discussion is part of the environmental series being sponsored by Adult Spiritual Education and Peace and Social Concerns. Dr. Wistrand will .address questions such as Where did we come from?  Why do we possess certain traits?  Where do we fit in the universe and this planet?   These questions, and many others, have been posed by countless philosophers, theologians, cosmologists, biologists, and others for thousands of years.

Religious doctrine has often suppressed open scientific inquiry into these questions.  Charles Darwin delayed publication for over a decade of his pivotal book, On the Origin of Species, because he was fearful of the religious controversy it would generate.  Are humans a special creation or a very special species evolving like all other species on this planet?  Dr. Wistrand will try to summarize human evolution as it is understood today, the traits which distinguish us, and the traits we have in common with our closest relatives.  He hopes most of the session will consist of questions and discussion.

Scholarship Funds for Adult Spiritual Education

Jean Jones Andersen’s passion for spiritual education led her to leave our community funds to support adults in taking classes, retreats, workshops, etc. to further their spiritual education. If you have an idea, vision, or leading towards some kind of spiritual growth opportunity—spiritual formation retreat, classes, etc.–and you need funds to make it happen, the members of the Adult Spiritual Education Committee–clerk Mary Fran Hughes-McIntyre, Bette Gilchrist, Betsy Brinson, Monica Shaw, and Leslie Shiel–invite you to submit your request–a letter to our committee–explaining the project and asking for what you need.

You may leave your letter in the ASE mailbox at meeting house, mail it to Richmond Friends Meeting, 4500 Kensington Avenue, VA 23221-2301 (c/o Adult Spiritual Education Committee), or email one of the committee members.

RFM Winter Retreat at The Clearing: Writing Your Spirituality

The committees of Ministry and Worship and Adult Spiritual Education invite you to….

….Save the date! Saturday, February 28th 2015……for a Winter Retreat day at The Clearing!

Lynn Domina, poet and teacher, will lead us in a day of finding spiritual and creative expression through writing, surrounded and inspired by the lovely quietude of the Clearing in winter. Regardless of previous writing experience or aspirations, this will be a day all can enjoy.

Divine Words: Writing Your Spirituality

Those flashes of transcendence—many of us have experienced one or two. Those dark nights of the soul—most of us have also survived those. Those ordinary moments that fill our days—we move through them, remembering and forgetting and remembering. We describe our experience to others and try to make sense of it for ourselves.

During this retreat we’ll explore how writing can help us discover, express, and deepen our spirituality. The day will be structured so that participants have ample time to write as well as to share. We’ll also look at excerpts from the work of writers often thought of as spiritual—and maybe some we’d never thought to call spiritual. The facilitator will provide many prompts and examples, and the day will be designed so that everyone can benefit.

Lynn is the author of several books, including two collections of poetry, “Corporal Works” and “Framed in Silence”, and the editor of a collection of essays, “Poets on the Psalms”. She teaches English at the State University of New York at Delhi, in the western Catskills, and she is also an M.Div. student at the Earlham School of Religion. She lives with her family in a 200-year old home with lots of plumbing problems.

Invitation to a Fall Men’s Retreat at The Clearing

Several men in our Meeting have expressed an interest in having another Men’s Retreat at The Clearing this fall. The retreats are held under the broad oversight of Ministry and Worship. A small committee plans and facilitates the retreat.

This is an invitation to all men in the meeting to come to a retreat this fall, from about 8:30 am to 4:00 pm on a Saturday. Please let Jim Thoroman know if you are interested in coming. Also, let him know if you would like to join three or four others for lunch to plan the days activities. (Dan Shaw has already agreed to help with planning and Juan Whittington is always involved.)

Please respond with best October, November, or early December Saturday dates by Saturday, Sept 27 so we can choose a date. With the new heating system at the Lodge, we can meet comfortably even if the weather is cold!

Send email replies to Jim . He and Dan Shaw can answer any questions you might have.

For more information about The Clearing, see The Clearing page on RFMs website at https://staging.richmondfriends.org/

Past retreats have been enjoyable and satisfying. Hope to see you there!

An Invitation to Remember Jean Jones Andersen

Jean Jones Andersen was a lifelong student of the Bible, world religions  and spirituality. In her later years, she initiated and facilitated many spirit-led groups in her home which she called “Questers Lodge”, including dream work, Jungian studies, Islamic studies, and the multi-year Education for Ministry.  She also started Bible Workbench, for years a weekly gathering at 9:30 at our Meeting.

Jean always challenged us in our spiritual journeys, but above all she led by example. She invited others into her home, her life, and into the process of her dying. Many of us grew intellectually and spiritually thanks to her programs.  Many were deeply touched by her and by her encouraging us to “trust the process.”

When she passed away in 2009, she left Richmond Friends Meeting a generous bequest that she intended to be a challenge regarding the future of adult spiritual education in our Meeting.  Her bequest became our Adult Spiritual Education Fund, which has since helped us expand our library, engage workshop leaders, continue Bible Workbench,  give scholarships to Quaker conferences and sponsor longer term programs, like “The New Jim Crow” series.  As a result RFM committees have been inspired to work together and invigorate adult spiritual education in our Meeting.

The Adult Spiritual Education Committee now plans to collect memories of Jean, which we will compile and preserve in our policy and procedures manual.  This will assure that as the years pass, Friends will continue to know and appreciate the many ways that Jean inspired our community.

We invite you to remember Jean, write something about your experiences with her, and send written memories to Monica Shaw of the Adult Spiritual Education committee.

White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack

WHITE PRIVILEGE: UNPACKING THE INVISIBLE KNAPSACK by PEGGY McINTOSH

(Introduced by Marilyn Gilmore) (Edited by Pat Schenck)

Peggy McIntosh, a White feminist scholar, identified a long list of societal privileges that she received simply because she was White. She did not ask for them, and it is important to note that she hadn’t always noticed that she was receiving them. They included major and minor advantages.

It’s one thing to have enough awareness of racism to describe the ways that people of color are disadvantaged by it. But a new understanding of racism is more elusive. In very concrete terms, it means that if a person of color is the victim of housing discrimination, the apartment that would otherwise have been rented to that person of color is still available for a White person. The White tenant is, knowingly or unknowingly, the beneficiary of racism, a system of advantage based on race. The unsuspecting tenant is not to blame for the prior discrimination, but she benefits from it anyway.

For many Whites, this new awareness of the benefits of a racist system elicits considerable pain, often accompanied by feelings of anger and guilt. These uncomfortable emotions can hinder further discussion of race and racism. We all like to think that we deserve the good things we have received, and that others, too, get what they deserve. Social psychologists call this tendency a “belief in a just world.” Racism directly contradicts such notions of justice.

Understanding racism as a system of advantage based on race is contrary to traditional notions of an American meritocracy. For those who have internalized this myth, this definition generates considerable discomfort. It is more comfortable simply to think of racism as a particular form of prejudice. Notions of power or privilege do not have to be addressed when our understanding of racism is constructed that way.

It is important to understand that the system of advantage is perpetuated when we do not acknowledge its existence. And now, on to Peggy’s paper.

Through work to bring materials and perspectives from Women’s Studies into the rest of the curriculum, I have often noticed men’s unwillingness to grant that they are over-privileged in the curriculum, even though they may grant that women are disadvantaged. Denials which amount to taboos surround the subject of advantages which men gain from women’s disadvantages. These denials protect male privilege from being fully recognized, acknowledged, lessened, or ended. Thinking through unacknowledged male privilege as a phenomenon with a life of its own, I realized that since hierarchies in our society are interlocking, there was most likely a phenomenon of white privilege which was similarly denied and protected, but alive and real in its effects. As a

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white person, I realized I had been taught about racism as something which puts others at a disadvantage, but had been taught not to see one of its corollary aspects, white privilege, which puts me at an advantage.

I think whites are carefully taught not to recognize white privilege, as males are taught not to recognize male privilege. So I have begun in an untutored way to ask what it is like to have white privilege. This paper is a partial record of my personal observations, and not a scholarly analysis. It is based on my daily experiences within my particular circumstances.

I have come to see white privilege as an invisible package of unearned assets which I can count on cashing in each day, but about which I was “meant” to remain oblivious. White privilege is like an invisible, weightless knapsack of special provisions, assurances, tools, maps, codes, code books, passports, visas, clothes, compasses, emergency gear, and blank checks.

My schooling gave me no training in seeing myself as an oppressor, as an unfairly advantaged person, or as a participant in a damaged culture. I was taught to see myself as an individual whose moral state depended on her individual moral will. At school, we were not taught about slavery in any depth; we were not taught to see slaveholders as damaged people. Slaves were seen as the only group at risk of being dehumanized. My schooling followed the pattern which Elizabeth Minnich pointed out: whites are taught to think of their lives as morally neutral, normative, average, and also ideal, so that when we work to benefit others, this is seen as work which will allow “them” to be more like “us.”

After frustration with men who would not recognize male privilege, I decided to try to work on myself at least by identifying some of the daily effects of white privilege in my life. It is crude work, at this stage, but I will give here a list of special circumstances and conditions I experience which I did not earn but which I have been made to feel are mine by birth, by citizenship, and by virtue of being a conscientious law-abiding “normal” person of good will. I have chosen those conditions which I think in my case attach somewhat more to skin-color privilege than to class, religion, ethnic status, or geographical location, though of course all these other factors are intricately intertwined. As far as I can see, my African-American co-workers, friends, and acquaintances with whom I come into daily or frequent contact at this particular time, place and line of work cannot count on most of these conditions.

  1. I can, if I wish, arrange to be in the company of people of my own race most of the time.
  2. I can avoid spending time with people whom I was trained to mistrust and who have learned to mistrust my kind, or me.
  3. If I should need to move, I can be pretty sure of renting or purchasing housing in an area which I can afford and in which I would want to live.
  4. I can be pretty sure that my neighbors in such a location will be neutral or pleasant to me.
  5. I can go shopping alone most of the time, pretty well assured that I will not be followed or harassed.

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  1. I can turn on the television or open to the front page of the paper and see people of my race widely represented.
  2. When I am told about our national heritage or about “civilization,” I am shown that people of my color made it what it is.
  3. I can be sure that my children will be given curricular materials that testify to the existence of their race.
  4. If I want to, I can be pretty sure of finding a publisher for this piece on white privilege.
  5. I can be pretty sure of having my voice heard in a group in which I am the only member of my race.
  6. I can be casual about whether or not to listen to another woman’s voice in a group in which she is the only member of her race.
  7. I can go into a music shop and count on finding the music of my race represented, into a supermarket and find the staple foods which fit with my cultural traditions, into a hairdresser’s shop and find someone who can cut my hair.
  8. Whether I use checks, credit cards, or cash, I can count on my skin color not to work against the appearance of financial reliability.
  9. I can arrange to protect my children most the time from people who might not like them.
  10. I do not have to educate my children to be aware of systemic racism for their own daily physical protection.
  11. I can be pretty sure that my children’s teachers and employers will tolerate them if they fit school and workplace norms; my chief worries about them do not concern others’ attitudes toward their race.
  12. I can talk with my mouth full and not have people put this down to my color.
  13. I can swear, or dress in second-hand clothes, or not answer letters, without having people attribute these choices to the bad morals, the poverty, or the illiteracy of my race.
  14. I can speak in public to a powerful male group without putting my race on trial.
  15. I can do well in a challenging situation without being called a credit to my race.
  16. I am never asked to speak for all the people of my racial group.

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  1. I can remain oblivious of the language and customs of persons of color who constitute the world’s majority without feeling in my culture any penalty for such oblivion.
  2. I can criticize our government and talk about how much I fear its policies and behavior without being seen as a cultural outsider.
  3. I can be pretty sure that if I ask to talk to “the person in charge,” I will be facing a person of my race.
  4. If a traffic cop pulls me over or if the IRS audits my tax return, I can be sure that I haven’t been singled out because of my race.
  5. I can easily buy posters, post-cards, picture books, greeting cards, dolls, toys, and children’s magazines featuring people of my race.
  6. I can go home from most meetings of organizations I belong to feeling somewhat tied in, rather than isolated, out-of-place, outnumbered, unheard, held at a distance, or feared.
  7. I can be pretty sure that an argument with a colleague of another race is more likely to jeopardize her chances for advancement than to jeopardize mine.
  8. I can be pretty sure that if I argue for the promotion of a person of another race, or a program centering on race, this is not likely to cost me heavily within my present setting, even if my colleagues disagree with me.
  9. If I declare there is a racial issue at hand, or there isn’t a racial issue at hand, my race will lend me more credibility for either position than a person of color will have.
  10. I can choose to ignore developments in minority writing and minority activist programs, or disparage them, or learn from them, but in any case, I can find ways to be more or less protected from negative consequences of any of these choices.
  11. My culture gives me little fear about ignoring the perspectives and powers of people of other races.
  12. I am not made acutely aware that my shape, bearing, or body odor will be taken as a reflection on my race.
  13. I can worry about racism without being seen as self-interested or self-seeking.
  14. I can take a job with an affirmative action employer without having my co-workers on the job suspect that I got it because of my race.
  15. If my day, week, or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether it has racial overtones.

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  1. I can be pretty sure of finding people who would be willing to talk with me and advise me about my next steps, professionally.
  2. I can think over many options, social, political, imaginative, or professional, without asking whether a person of my race would be accepted or allowed to do what I want to do.
  3. I can be late to a meeting without having the lateness reflect on my race.
  4. I can choose public accommodation without fearing that people of my race cannot get in or will be mistreated in the places I have chosen.
  5. I can be sure that if I need legal or medical help, my race will not work against me.
  6. I can arrange my activities so that I will never have to experience feelings of rejection owing to my race.
  7. If I have low credibility as a leader, I can be sure that my race is not the problem.
  8. I can easily find academic courses and institutions which give attention only to people of my race.
  9. I can expect figurative language and imagery in all of the arts to testify to experiences of my race.
  10. I can choose blemish cover or bandages in “flesh” color and have them more or less match my skin.

I repeatedly forgot each of the realizations on this list until I wrote it down. For me, white privilege has turned out to be an elusive and fugitive subject. The pressure to avoid it is great, for in facing it I must give up the myth of meritocracy. If these things are true, this is not such a free country; one’s life is not what one makes it; many doors open for certain people through no virtues of their own. These perceptions mean also that my moral condition is not what I had been led to believe. The appearance of being a good citizen rather than a troublemaker comes in large part from having all sorts of doors open automatically because of my color.

In this potpourri of examples, some privileges make me feel at home in the world. Others allow me to escape penalties or dangers which others suffer. Through some, I escape fear, anxiety, or a sense of not being welcome or not being real. Some keep me from having to hide, to be in disguise, to feel sick or crazy, to negotiate each transaction from the position of being an outsider, or, within my group, a person who is suspected of having too close links with a dominant culture. Most keep me from having to be angry.

I see a pattern running through the matrix of white privilege, a pattern of assumptions which were passed on to me as a white person. There was one main piece of cultural turn; it was my own turf, and I was among those who could control the turf. I could measure up to the cultural standards and take advantage of the many options I saw around me to make what the culture would call a success

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of my life. My skin color was an asset for any move I was educated to want to make. I could think of myself as “belonging” in major ways, and of making social systems work for me. I could freely disparage, fear, neglect, or be oblivious to anything outside of the dominant cultural forms. Being of the main culture, I could also criticize it fairly freely. My life was reflected back to me frequently enough so that I felt, with regard to my race, if not my sex, like one of the real people.

Whether through the curriculum or in the newspaper, the television, the economic system, or the general look of people in the streets, we receive daily signals and indications that my people counted, and that others either didn’t exist or must be trying, not very successfully, to be like people of my race. We were given cultural permission not to hear voices of people of other races, or a tepid cultural tolerance if we did happen to hear them.

In proportion, as my racial group was being made confident, comfortable, and oblivious, other groups were likely being made to lack confidence, comfort, and to feel alienated. Whiteness protected me from many kinds of hostility, distress and violence, which I was being subtly trained to visit in turn upon people of color.

It seems to me that obliviousness about white advantage is kept strongly enculturated in the United States so as to maintain the myth of meritocracy, the myth that democratic choice is equally available to all. Keeping most people unaware that freedom of confident action is there for just a small number of people props up those in power, and serves to keep power in the hands of the same groups that have most of it already.

Though systematic change takes many decades, there are pressing questions for me and I imagine for some others like me if we raise our daily consciousness on the dividends of being light-skinned. What will we do with such knowledge? …(I)t is an open question whether we will choose to use unearned advantage to weaken hidden systems of advantage, and whether we will use any of our arbitrarily-awarded power to try to reconstruct power systems on a broader base.

Currently featured in the library:

The Library Committee plans to feature periodically books that may be of particular interest to Friends. Currently featured are two books about Margaret Fell:

Undaunted Zeal:  The Letters of Margaret Fell,  editor and introduction by Elsa F. Glines

Margaret Fell and The End of Time:  The Theology of Modern Quakerism , Sally Bruyneel

They are located along the board with Quaker magazines and other items of interest.

Adult Spiritual Education Committee Guidelines for Funding Scholarships

The following are the guidelines established by the Adult Spiritual Education Committee for funding scholarships to Quaker programs.

Adult Spiritual Education Committee Guidelines for Funding Scholarships

  • The Scholarship Fund intends to facilitate RFM’s adult spiritual education by sponsoring involvement within the wider Quaker community (BYM, FGC, FUM, Pendle Hill, School of the Spirit and other Quaker-based programs).
  • Expenditures that benefit Meeting as a whole are prioritized, such as support for visiting retreat leaders or education of individuals in ways that support larger meeting concerns.
  • Written requests (letters) with a proposal can come from either committees or individuals (members or active attenders).
  • Funds are awarded on the basis of financial need, determined by a simple committee / personal statement. Use of other available funds is also encouraged.
  • Recipients are expected to write a note for ASE archives documenting completion of the proposed experience or project. Sharing what was learned with the larger meeting community will be welcomed (e.g. Newsletter article, ASE program, committee work, etc.).
  • Availability of funds will be announced in conjunction with the advertisement of specific programs (such as the BYM Spiritual Formation retreat). Periodically, ASE will inform the Meeting of educational opportunities and resources in the wider Quaker community.

Bequest Use Policy

In her will, Jean Jones Anderson offered a bequest to Meeting, with the stipulation that it be used for adult spiritual education. After much consideration, in November 2011, Meeting approved the following policy governing the use of the bequest.

Recommendations from the Bequest Use Committee to Richmond Friends Meeting Approved by 11th Month Meeting for Worship with a Concern for Business (11/21/2010)

After a series of committee meetings, a listening circle, presentation at 10th Month Meeting for Worship with a Concern for Business, and with consideration of feedback from the broader RFM community, the Bequest Use Committee brought the following recommendations to 11th Month Meeting:

  1. The Bequest Use Committee recommends the formation of a new Committee: The Adult Spiritual Education Committee (ASE). This Committee would have responsibility for adult spiritual education as defined by Ministry & Worship, as specified in Jean’s will. Responsibilities of the new committee would include the study of scriptures (such as Bible Workbench), the study of Quaker history, testimonies, and values (such as Quakerism 101), study groups (such as Spiritual Formation), speakers, forums, adult religious education, and other activities. These responsibilities would transfer to ASE from Ministry & Worship (M&W) Committee. Fall Retreat will be a joint responsibility of these two committees.
  2. ASE would have an annual budget from Jean’s bequest to develop programs that benefit our Meeting as a whole and to purchase materials for Bible Workbench. In addition, ASE could use some funds to award need- based scholarships for individuals (members and attenders) who want to participate in adult spiritual education activities, especially those sponsored by the wider Religious Society of Friends. Because the Mary Hulburt Fund is designated for first-time participation in specific Quaker activities, it seems appropriate that ASE administer this fund.
  3. The Bequest Use Committee recommends that the members of ASE be members of Richmond Friends Meeting and that they be appointed for three years, with staggered initial terms to ensure continuity of membership over time. Current members of M&W who have one or two years remaining on their terms should be allowed to choose either to continue on M&W or to serve on ASE. Nominating Committee will determine the appropriate size of ASE and M&W and will fill ASE as soon as feasible. Like other committees, ASE will report periodically to Meeting for Worship with a Concern for Business on its activities and accomplishments.
  4. ASE will work with Financial Stewardship to develop guidelines for the investment and expenditure of the bequest funds over time. ASE and Financial Stewardship will present these guidelines to Meeting for Worship with a Concern for Business for approval as soon as practicable. In developing these guidelines, the committees will consider the following recommendations made by the Bequest Use Committee and approved, in principle, by Meeting at 11th Month Meeting for Worship with a Concern for Business:
    1. Since the amount of the bequest funds is still unknown, the Bequest Use Committee recommends dividing the funds into two parts for budgeting purposes. The Bequest Use Committee recommends that $20,000 of the funds from the bequest be held in reserve, to be invested and monitored by Financial Stewardship. It is anticipated that these funds would grow over time and would generate income to be used for adult spiritual education after the amount over $20,000 (see paragraph 4.b., below) has been expended.
    2. The Bequest Use Committee recommends an annual budget for ASE of five to 10 percent of the amount of the bequest funds over $20,000 for a period of ten to twenty years, depending on the amount expended each year. The exact amount of each year’s budget will be determined through the normal budgeting process and approved in a Meeting for Worship with a Concern for Business.
  5. Following the review and support of this proposal by M&W, this proposal was presented at the 11th Month Meeting for Worship with a Concern for Business and refinements suggested at that Meeting are reflected here.

These recommendations were approved and the Bequest Use Committee is now laid down. (Committee Members: T.J. Armstrong, Diane Bowden, Howard Garner (clerk), Bette Gilchrist, Steve Humphrey and Rita Willett.)